I got an anon this morning that had a few questions for me about rpf stuff. I’m not going to publish it because I disagree with some of the basic premises, but I do want to address it, because I have thoughts, and somebody asked, so. Under the cut is some rambling about crisscolfer, chill, and a word that begins with the letter ‘t’.
Why not crisscolfer? (ETA: this is in the context of why I don’t ever post about crisscolfer stuff like I do chill stuff. I actually do like the very best crisscolfer fic, because they are each hot as fuck.)
Because I don’t see them as good complements for each other. Because I think Darren would drive Chris up a wall and I think Chris would bore Darren. Because I think that Darren has a non-traditional masculine presentation and doesn’t have hangups around that but also exclusively fucks girls. I don’t hate Darren (so let me get that out of the way now; I have tickets to 4 of his shows, ffs); thinking that he and Chris are ill-suited for each other does not require me to hate him. I’ve never had a moment when I thought they might be together; I just don’t see them that way. That’s my take on the personas of Chris and Darren that we have been able to see, both what’s publicly presented and what we’ve been able to suss out from other stuff, because this is tumblr CSI.
On the contrary, I think that what little we know of Will suggests that he and Chris are kind of uncannily well-suited for each other, and I get mushy about it.
Why do you like Will when he hates trans people?
This is presumably about how Will used the word ‘tranny’ in an August 2011 blog entry; if you have more information about Will hating trans* people than that, feel free to share it with me, but I am unaware of it.
And I don’t want to get all history of language with you, but do you know who else used that word that year? Neil Patrick Harris, in December 2011. Also Lance Bass and Kelly Osbourne and a whole bunch of people who, presumably, are probably also not hateful people. Kelly Osbourne wrote a piece about it, about the ubiquity of the word in her world and her straight up ignorance that it was considered hateful language. I think that we are in a period of massive, rapid social change, and that word and what it means (both denotation and connotation) has been a locus for some of that. (Between us? I have NO IDEA how these people got to 2011 without knowing that, but it does appear to be the case. See below, because I actually do have some kind of idea.)
I also think that NPH and Will have something in common; they are attractive, cisgendered, white gay/bi men, and even if you peel out the gay part, they are still attractive, cis, white men, and there’s a whole bundle of privilege and baggage that comes with that social position that takes time to find in yourself. I’m a cis, straight white girl; I’m still doing it. Isn’t everybody?
Because they’re not alone in that. Chris has a habit of talking about his fans as 14 year old girls that is meant to be self-deprecating; he’s been called a misogynist over it, over his complicity with the assumption that anything that young girls like can’t be that awesome. He made an offhand comment about taxation once that irritated the fuck out of a whole bunch of massive socialsist progressives (including me). Darren pissed off a WHOLE bunch of people when he was overheard joking with a friend (after seeing Book of Mormon) about ripping his friend’s clit out. They’re young and powerful and privileged; they are young and ignorant and privileged.
So insofar as this is a question of social justice, my personal position is to allow people to fuck up and grow; to not judge a character entire on one use of language 2 years ago, months before three high-profile uses of the word (Kelly Osbourne, NPH, and Lance Bass all used the word within like 6 weeks of each other) forced the most public national dialogue around that word as hate language that had ever existed. Google it if you don’t remember; the whole dialogue is still up and available to read.
But maybe that’s just me and my own social position that encourages and requires me to extend that kind of tolerance. You should probably make your own decisions about what kind of tolerances you can extend, who and what you can make allowances for and for what reasons. I think that Chris and Will are together, I actually think it’s more serious than we officially know, and I think that it’s new ground for Chris. I will be sitting here chinhanding my face off and thinking it’s wonderful.